This Day

On this day which is so special to me,
there is a dark cloud above raining on a river which flows to the sea.
It was on this day when I said, “I do,”
I believed I would learn about love and spend the rest of my life with you.
So, why on this day which was special to me, did fourteen women need to die, fourteen of the best?

There is not a lot I can do or a lot I can say.
I can not bring back those fourteen lives or save our union, but
I can know the poison and walk my own way.
It does not seem like much and it haunts me to wonder why,
So many dreams were crushed, so many tears were cried.

When I try to practice what I have written here, some comes easy and some comes filled with fear.
I do not let this stop me from striving each day, to let my heart speaking what it really needs to say.
Here are fourteen reasons but, there are many more.
Each one is special, each one opens a door.
Each one is different and leads to a sacred place.
Each one is full of love and leads to more open space.

Look into her eyes when you want to come clean.
Look into her eyes and feel what she means.
Make a contribution to her endeavors without any strings.
Trust her, never lie to her, and listen until her heart sings.

Be interested in her beliefs even if they are different than yours.
Back off when she is angry and looking for more.
Do not use your physical advantage to dominate a fight.
Do not be stubborn even if you feel you are right.

Stop for a moment when you just want to shout.
Stop for a moment and think of what it is all about.
Laugh and cry with her and dedicate a safe place.
For it is the gateway to intimacy and grace.

So, why on this day which was so special to me,
do I just want you gone, I just want you free?
Why do I hear on the radio low in the background while I write,
today in Baltimore, five more women were gunned down?
And, it’s raining.

Ken Bateman
December 6, 2000


In Memory of the Fourteen Women Who Died, December 6, 1989

Why Did I Write "This Day?"

December 6, 1989

I was married on December 6, 1992. The day was not something I thought about too much before being married but, I did think about it lots after. I was born and raised in a very violent home and as a young boy I swore to never be like my father. Thinking about being married on December 6 after I was married seemed to haunt me and I needed to write about those feelings on December 6, 2000 when I decided to seperate from my wife. I heard on the radio as I wrote, that in Baltimore, five more women were gunned down. Click on the image to read more about this massacre.

Why This Graphic Was Used

This photo of the woman has been enhanced in Photoshop using layers, masks, and blending. The text from my writing has been placed on her skin only and masked from all else. I used this graphic since it is somewhat unique, both on the screen or paper and most definitely in my heart. It is my way of saying how us guys may make things a bit better if we come from the heart. Click on the image to read more about this massacre.

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